Who wants to pay me to stay at home and take care of my child???
I am open to a reasonable negotiations???
I am a little expensive and medical insurance and benefits must be included.
Maybe I can talk the school district into paying me to stay home and
teach my own child instead of 135+ other children???
Some of them are at about the same maturity level as Ian.
Today was Ian's first full day of daycare from 8 am to 3 pm. It wasn't that bad but like I am really going to enjoy it -lets be real. Tim dropped Ian off then headed to beaver mountain to go snowboarding with the fresh snow and enjoy his last week of freedom before school begins (remarks on that are welcome just beware of who writes this) and I headed off to work.
I was about to leave work during my prep period to go and take a peek and see how Ian was doing but my mom was able to go and check it out for me. Thanks! He was doing good -minus that another child was sucking on his binkie that was clipped to him (yes I know I am not sure how that works either). Then he started crying and they caregiver picked him up and was getting his bottle ready. My mom mentioned that the other girl had his binkie and they took it away -yes I know they are going to love us! He struggled with his 1st nap a little but I later realized that I never did inform them that he does not sleep on his back -he screams on his back and must be on his tummy. He has been that way since he was 3 weeks old. I am not sure how I missed that I wrote a page long detailed note of his schedule and other random facts -again I am sure that are just going to love me!
While they were feeding him my mom left and went back to work. Finally my work ended and I bolted out the door as soon as possible -bye bye students catch me on a better day but tomorrow doesn't look good either :) My mom had arrived at the daycare just before me and went in to get Ian. Tim was back from boarding and met us there as well. Ian was soo excited to see us -truth be told he was excited to see me more than anyone else. He's not dumb he knows who feeds him. Another girl was playing with Ian's stuffed animal that he sleeps with. I guess I have a problem with sharing and I am selfish (or prideful lol Lisa!) -because I do not like my sons things being shared. I am sure Ian could care less and willingly shares them but what kind of a mother would say "No, don't share your things with other children." Apparently me.
All in all Ian was feed a bottle 3 times, ate oatmeal, diaper was changed 4 times, and even took 2 naps. But it is still not the same. He didn't get his fruits (because they had a busy day) and he didn't get all the attention and love he deserves. Yes of course he got attention and love and they took care of him but not the kind of attention and love that I would show him. I am looking at other options but there just isn't much. I was thinking lottery ticket -but like I am going to buy a ticket your probablility of winning is as good as nothing -duh I am a mathematician we do problems like that all the time. So are things going well I guess. Do I hate him going there -it is day two and the answer is a definate yes. Don't ask about day three...and pray that there is not a day four. But the outcome doesn't look good.
I am open to a reasonable negotiations???
I am a little expensive and medical insurance and benefits must be included.
Maybe I can talk the school district into paying me to stay home and
teach my own child instead of 135+ other children???
Some of them are at about the same maturity level as Ian.
Today was Ian's first full day of daycare from 8 am to 3 pm. It wasn't that bad but like I am really going to enjoy it -lets be real. Tim dropped Ian off then headed to beaver mountain to go snowboarding with the fresh snow and enjoy his last week of freedom before school begins (remarks on that are welcome just beware of who writes this) and I headed off to work.
I was about to leave work during my prep period to go and take a peek and see how Ian was doing but my mom was able to go and check it out for me. Thanks! He was doing good -minus that another child was sucking on his binkie that was clipped to him (yes I know I am not sure how that works either). Then he started crying and they caregiver picked him up and was getting his bottle ready. My mom mentioned that the other girl had his binkie and they took it away -yes I know they are going to love us! He struggled with his 1st nap a little but I later realized that I never did inform them that he does not sleep on his back -he screams on his back and must be on his tummy. He has been that way since he was 3 weeks old. I am not sure how I missed that I wrote a page long detailed note of his schedule and other random facts -again I am sure that are just going to love me!
While they were feeding him my mom left and went back to work. Finally my work ended and I bolted out the door as soon as possible -bye bye students catch me on a better day but tomorrow doesn't look good either :) My mom had arrived at the daycare just before me and went in to get Ian. Tim was back from boarding and met us there as well. Ian was soo excited to see us -truth be told he was excited to see me more than anyone else. He's not dumb he knows who feeds him. Another girl was playing with Ian's stuffed animal that he sleeps with. I guess I have a problem with sharing and I am selfish (or prideful lol Lisa!) -because I do not like my sons things being shared. I am sure Ian could care less and willingly shares them but what kind of a mother would say "No, don't share your things with other children." Apparently me.
All in all Ian was feed a bottle 3 times, ate oatmeal, diaper was changed 4 times, and even took 2 naps. But it is still not the same. He didn't get his fruits (because they had a busy day) and he didn't get all the attention and love he deserves. Yes of course he got attention and love and they took care of him but not the kind of attention and love that I would show him. I am looking at other options but there just isn't much. I was thinking lottery ticket -but like I am going to buy a ticket your probablility of winning is as good as nothing -duh I am a mathematician we do problems like that all the time. So are things going well I guess. Do I hate him going there -it is day two and the answer is a definate yes. Don't ask about day three...and pray that there is not a day four. But the outcome doesn't look good.
6 comments:
I'm so sorry Ashley! I used to wonder why people would always nag my mom to get a job and my DAD was always the one who was more firm in saying, no..and then I became a mom. I'm sorry that it's hard. you are are great mom, so I knew it would be, but hopefully it gets better...if nothing else, try and remember Ian won't remember being 8 months old!
Oh man, this was good for me to read, and see how hard it really is to put your child in daycare. Just know it isn't permanant, and summer will hopefully be here before you know it?
oh! this made me really sad. i actually do want to pray that there isn't a day four! how many kids are at the day care?? you know, if you ever feel like he needs a little more one on one attention (even though it's not as good as yours) you are welcome to bring him here. it's just bowen and i and we tend to have plenty of time to throw in a fruit and veggie here and there. i'm serious. i've helped out other friends in this same situation. just let me know. we could even talk making some days permanent. summer will be here before you know it, hang in there ashley!!
my heart aches for you. wish i could pay you to stay home because i so would.
Work and motherhood is the hardest balance EVER. I'm sad it's been so tough for you. I'm like you and was cringing at some of the sharing toys and binkies! No one can replace mom! But like Lisa said, you are a great mom and Ian won't remember his young days at daycare. I too could help out with Ian at times. If you ever need me let me know. P.S. Tim going snowboarding!?! What!?! Sounds a lot like us right now. I head to drop the kids off and work and Thom is snowmobiling. Men...
Hey-you shouldn't be so hard on yourself. It's very natural to not want your kid to share at daycare when the kids are still at an age where they put things in their mouth and a daycare is also a place where his stuff may wind up going home with someone else if they are allowed to play with it. LABEL EVERYTHING!! Trust me, I worked in a daycare. If you start not wanting him to share at home, then I'll worry about you. Also, daycare will never be the same as mom care, but it's not the end of the world. You do what you have to do and children come out of it just fine. In some ways, it's good for them (ducking all the stay-at-home moms who want to throw things at me). Both my kids were in daycare when they had to be and they are FINE!! This too shall pass. And don't feel bad about all the info you are throwing at the staff-if it's a good daycare-they should appreciate it. Overinvolved parents are 20 times better than non-involved ones.
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